FYV #30 - Why It Gets Harder Right Before It Gets Easier
Aug 04, 2025Ever made a bold move—only to feel doubt, tension, or total emotional whiplash after the fact? You’re not alone, and you’re not doing it wrong. In this episode, Kristi breaks down two powerful concepts from psychology—lagging indicators and extinction bursts—that explain why growth feels so uncomfortable right before it clicks. Whether you’re stepping into greater courtroom presence or shifting long-held habits, this conversation will help you make sense of the chaos and stay the course when it counts.
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In this episode, you’ll learn:
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What “lagging indicators” and “extinction bursts” actually are—and how they show up in your leadership growth
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Why old habits feel stronger right before they break
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How to know if your discomfort is a sign of backsliding or progress
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What courtroom communication has to do with a post-dinner sweet treat (yes, really)
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How to hold steady when your nervous system wants to panic
Key Takeaway:
Discomfort isn’t always a sign that something’s wrong. It’s often the clearest signal that transformation is already in motion.
Favorite Moment:
“That rebellion? That chaos? That’s the extinction burst. It doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It means the old pattern is losing oxygen.”
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